After 30 Years Of Marriage Mark Harmon’s Wife
Finally Reveals The Truth For most Hollywood couples, scandal tears
apart their relationship before they even get the chance to really know each other!
We’ve seen the same narrative play out time and time again — two stars meet, fall madly
in love, get married, have a child and endure a painful (and often public) divorce. Thankfully, NCIS star Mark Harmon and his
wife of 30 years, Pam Dawber, found a way to break the mold. Pam recently spoke about
the secret to their success — and it’s not what most people would think…
In a rare interview, Pam told Entertainment Tonight’s Nischelle Turner their marriage’s
longevity all has to do with her staying out of the spotlight while her husband lives the
Hollywood life. “I don’t think two people can work all the
time in show business and stay married.” Pam explained that she enjoyed acting on a
hit sitcom and dabbling in other artistic ventures, but as soon as she became a mother,
nothing else mattered. The Hollywood life just wasn’t appealing anymore. “I was in a number one show. I had my own
deal. I got to do Broadway. I got to do musical theater. I got to do cartoon voices. I did everything you can do in this business,
and then I had children and it’s like, ‘I’m not going to chase this fame thing.'”
“I wanted to drive my kids to school. I wanted to be there for their birthdays and bring
cupcakes and donuts and do the school festivals and all that, and I did. I got to teach in
their art class and so it was a different life then and I was very happy to do it… I’m just their mom. They don’t care about
what I did. They care about what they are doing. They want their parents to care about
what they are doing. Their father is already iconic enough for
two boys. I am just the mom.” In addition to Pam taking the “backseat” when
it came to acting, Pam says that the key to a happy Hollywood relationship is staying
out of the tabloids. She knows that a simple rumor can turn a loving marriage into a painful
union filled with distrust and resentment. “Notice you don’t see us in the magazines.
When you’re married, that’s real life. And to go and plaster your kids… I’m sorry.
I’m not for that.” For Mark and Pam, there’s nothing more important
than keeping their home life private — and after 30 happy years of marriage, it seems
to be working!